Typically, there is a lot of blame and frustration associated
with Attention Deficit Disorder. Depending on how long the problem has
gone before being diagnosed, there may be serious mental and emotional
scars as family members and the child dealt with issues associated with
ADD. This disorder is not only difficult for parents, but also the child
with ADD and other siblings in the family.
The obvious victim of ADD is the child it affects. Being
accustomed to negativity, these children usually suffer from very low self-esteem.
Although they want to behave well, they have impulsive actions that typically
result in constant punishment. Parents and teachers of an ADD child often
are not aware or do not accept that the child suffers from a disorder and
they are not always acting on a conscience level. The child, after being
reprimanded and not being able to control their actions, is left feeling
as though they will never be adequate or meet everyone else's expectations.
The parents of an ADD child suffer from incredible frustration
and doubt of their parenting skills. Often ridiculed by teachers, family
members, and other acquaintances, they are often viewed as being the cause
of their child's behavior, as though lack of discipline is the root cause
of their child's actions. Attention Deficit Disorder sometimes places a
strain on the parents' marital relationship as well, as parents blame each
other for being overly lenient or harsh in their rearing habits. This can
lead to many arguments and disagreements that prove to be difficult on
An often forgotten casualty of Attention Deficit Disorder
is the siblings of a child with ADD. Often not apparent, siblings in this
situation often experience similar frustration and anxiety as the parents
and child with ADD. Jealously sometimes plays a factor in their feelings
as their sibling requires so much more attention, even if it is negative
in nature. Also, these children often get the brunt of their sibling's
impulsive actions, including aggressive behavior typical of ADD. These
children may also find themselves being categorized in school and other
social environments because of their sibling's behavior, which can also
have a negative connotation.
In addition to immediate family, grandparents, aunts,
uncles, and cousins may also be affected when a child has ADD. Depending
on the closeness of the family, behavior outbursts and discipline issues
may be a factor dealt with on various levels. In extreme cases, ADD may
actually cause some familial relationships to be severed.
About the Author
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