Babies cry. Thereís no denying this fact; itís the only form of communication
they have! Deciphering which cry is which is the key, and understanding
that not all crying is a bad thing is amazingly important as a parent.
Reasons for crying include:
* Out of routine
* Fed too often
* Just because he can (!!!)
The American Academy of Pediatrics recognizes that crying is a natural
part of your babyís day; they tell parents to expect their babies to cry.
Newborns can and will often cry a total of one to four hours per day. No
mother can console her child every time he cries, so donít expect to be
a miracle-worker and do what others cannot. Pay close attention to your
babyís cries and youíll quickly be able to discern when he needs to be
picked up & consoled, taken care of, or when he is better off left
alone. Crying is a signal, not a judgment on your parenting skills!
The PDF parenting philosophy doesnít call for a suppression of all crying,
understanding that not all crying is unhealthy, but the prevention of the
crying can be very detrimental to both baby and parents as the child grows.
PDF babies will move from dependence to independence because the system
is built on relational security, not proximal security. Your baby will
be secure in your relationship with him as you meet his needs, rather than
just in the fact that youíre in the same room with him. This is the sort
of security parents want to infuse in their children to promote healthy
bonding and independence as they grow.
Abnormal cry times include the following:
* During feedings
* Immediately after feedings
* At times when the baby wakes early out of a sound
Crying at one of these times deserves immediate attention. Donít wait
for the crying to subside, investigate it quickly, looking for the root
of the cause.
Normal cry times include the following:
* Just before feeding
* When baby is put down to nap
* During the late afternoon/early evening period
(many babies are fussy at this time of day)
Without understanding your babyís cry patterns, youíll always be second-guessing
at his need or desire. Do not ignore your babyís cry if you cannot pinpoint
the root of it, but comfort him. Sometimes he just wants you, and thatís
okay! Part of your job as mommy is to soothe your baby and reassure him
that you are here to meet his needs.
About The Author
Kirsten Hawkins is a baby and parenting expert specializing new mothers
and single parent issues. Visit http://www.babyhelp411.com/
for more information on how to raising healthy, happy children.